TL;DR: Your relationship with yourself is the most important thing in any relationship, job, career, family, [insert any other noun here] you want in life. Period.
(Also do you know what TL;DR means? I just learned it means too long, didn’t read. Ha!! I thought I’d put my newfound knowledge to use!)
You’re not here because you just want a nice boyfriend.
That’s just a symptom that a part of your relationship with yourself isn’t working so well.
(I mean, maybe looking for a boyfriend is what brought you here in the first place, but that’s not why you’ve stayed. There are tons of relationship coaches that will teach you how to snag a man, if that’s what you’re looking for – but I don’t do that.)
In order to have better relationships than you’ve had before, you have to create a different relationship with yourself first.
Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way…something beautiful and unexpected happened.
It all started when I asked a girlfriend of mine to share something amazing about herself every day for seven days in an entrepreneur’s group we’re both a part of on Facebook.
What happened was nothing short of breathtaking. For her, and for the women she was sharing with. She got to remind herself of all the reasons why she’s worthy and lovable – and she got to feel the love that all these women have for her.
The other women got to understand her better and appreciate her openness and vulnerability – and the resulting connection and support was a total love-fest.
It was so much fun for me to watch and be a part of that, I offered to do the same thing with anyone else in the group that wanted to. We’d talk for a bit, they’d get an experiment related to a place they were getting in their own way, and then they’d share with the group for encouragement and feedback.
The response was overwhelming. The number of women who know they are ready to be more seen, that they want to be less hard on themselves, and that they are the thing that is keeping them small was way more than I expected – especially for a group of women that are total powerhouses.
I’ve always known that women in community can do wonderful things for and with each other, but this little side project of mine has blown me away.
What happens when you purposely strengthen your relationship with yourself?
“The 7-day experiment launched me into wanting to open up myself further and push my business to the next level. I went to the library today and picked up a handful of reads to fulfill my downtime. I’m getting even more serious about launching my website and book. I had some fantastic headshots done and I’m feeling a little more like the badass entrepreneur I know I can be.
Thank you for the challenge. And thank you for taking the time to listen to me.”
Shelby Oxley, Vancouver, Washington
“Working on what you asked me to has led to quite a few huge changes in me and my life in the last few weeks. The group was hugely important because there was no other safe pace to state all those things. You’ve completely changed my view of working with a coach because it’s just not something I would have had the courage to do before.”
Marisa Harrison, Lincoln, England
“It was valuable to be seen. You totally got me right away (even though I kept trying to throw weird-ass curve balls at you) and the experiment felt like something I totally needed. Because I don’t like to be vulnerable, I don’t like to share with people I’m not super close with, but those are things I need to get more comfortable doing to grow my business.”
Tracie Kendziora, Cocoa Beach, Florida
Why am I telling you all of this?
Because, dang, at the heart of it, I just want to see women like you know and trust yourself completely. And to see how fucking amazing and beautiful you are when you allow that to happen. This little side project birthed an inspiration to have women discover themselves and support each other in doing it.
What you’re about to read is the most accessible offering I’ve ever put out there – and I wasn’t expecting to do it. But with results like the ones so far, I couldn’t *not* do it. And it’s accessible not because it’s not valuable as hell, but because everybody deserves a place to start.
Head over here if you want to see it.
If it’s right for you – and I believe you will know if it is – I’d love to have you; it’s going to be powerful stuff.