Avoiding relationship so you don’t have to settle? I’ll show you how not to!
A 7-part self-paced course & a refreshingly honest and loving community of imperfectly beautiful women.
Seriously, how is it even possible that you’re still single?
You know you’re amazing, you’ve got your shit together, and the idea of a relationship sounds appealing, but finding a good one feels so elusive that it’s hard to admit it.
That, and maybe the fact that you’re so adamant about not settling that you won’t give any man a chance.
You think you want a relationship, but you remember relationships being more work than they are worth. In your past relationships, you gave more than you took, and you lost a part of yourself along the way. Let’s face it: you settled. You like who you are now, and it’s gonna take quite a man for you to be willing to give any of that up – and if you’re being honest, you don’t want to give up anything at all.
You might be afraid to admit it, but you want something deeper, with someone who is really going to commit, but he seems so damn hard to find.
You’d rather spend time doing things you love than waste your time with men who only want to hook up or that you simply can’t relate to.
Do any of these sound familiar?
- You feel like you’d be open to a relationship if you met someone, but you’re not putting in any effort to make it happen.
- You feel vulnerable and uncertain when you think about wanting a relationship, so you just focus your attention on other parts of your life.
- You are afraid that the man you want doesn’t exist.
- When you do find a man you think you’re interested in, you don’t like how fast you see old behaviors creep in that don’t feel like you.
But deep down, you know you want it.
You’re ready to have companionship and intimacy in your life again. You want someone to cuddle with, have fun with, and who you can trust with the most vulnerable parts of yourself. You’re hoping for love.
You’re ready to take the lessons you learned in your last relationship and know that you won’t make the same mistakes again. You’re excited to be emotionally available for a relationship where you stay true to yourself. You’re ready to let down your walls and share part of your life with a man who understands that there’s more to it than just him.
Well then, it’s time to ditch the patterns that screw it all up. I can help.
Hi, I’m Rachel. I’m a relationship-readiness coach for independent women who feel like finding companionship and intimacy is impossible without giving up lives they love. I teach my clients to unapologetically be themselves so they can get rid of old patterns and find the right amount of space in their lives to share with a guy who really gets them.
I’ve been down the path myself. After my divorce, I realized I had a debilitating fear of intimacy. My relationships all had one thing in common: I was so worried about being hurt or rejected if I was truly vulnerable, that I created a whole bunch of reasons why the relationship wasn’t right for me.
As soon as I saw what I was doing, I set out to change. I dismantled my stories and excuses. I created big experiments for myself so I could become who I wanted to become in relationships. My biggest experiment to date is when I moved in with a man – who wasn’t my boyfriend – for a year to see if I could have a live-in partner in the same home as my child.
Ultimately, I got clear that it was never about finding the right guy. It was about aligning my actions and beliefs so I could fully myself in any relationship.
I developed a sense of loyalty to myself that I’d never had before.
Oh, and the real kicker? Wouldn’t you know that partner options literally started to fall from the sky?!
I have a gift. (Ok, that’s a lie. I have many.) I can see patterns that others can’t see. I can hear the tone of your voice that tells me just how bad that thing you want to rush past hurts. I keep bringing you back to yourself, wherever you are, so you can build the relationships you really want. I make the really challenging work of personal development fun, practical and accessible.
Easy and straightforward steps equal steady progress.
As a result of this course, you will feel confident that you can keep the life you already love AND have the relationship you want:
- I’ll show you that you can only be in charge of you – you’ll know concretely which parts of a relationship are your responsibility and which parts belong to your partner, so you can focus on the places you actually can make a difference.
- I offer communication tools so that you can practice being vulnerable, expressing what you want, making agreements in relationships, and how to set and hold boundaries.
- I’ll point out common places that women hand the responsibility for getting their needs met over to a man and provide exercises to shift that dynamic.
- I offer weekly experiments and 1:1 coaching so that you can practice and gain a better understanding of yourself and how to trust what is right for you. For example, if you don’t believe that people want to do things for you (pay for dinner, help with chores, plan a vacation, etc), you might test that belief by spending a week asking people to do things for you that you would ordinarily do for yourself. Then you get to decide if you believe differently based on the data you’ve collected!
- And finally, the course elements are easiest to see when there is context. I share how I apply all of the concepts in my real life, and break it down for you, so you can see them in action.
She has seen things in me that I refused to see in myself but have been holding me back in ways that are not serving me. She delivers this with loving honesty, in a way that makes me say “Goddammit, she’s right. OUCH. OK, let’s take a baby step…” and then she’s there to nudge me on when I tiptoe a little bit backwards.” – Stephanie Hayes, Squamish, BC, Canada
You deserve love, you don’t have to settle, and you sure as hell don’t have to wait.
Join now and get immediate course access + instructions to join the group.
Get forever-access to 7 video trainings on the core behaviors that cause you to settle – and how to stop them!
Work at your own pace through a comprehensive practical action and big-sky dreaming workbook.
Take advantage of 1:1 in-group coaching with Rachel every weekday.
Live presentations by Rachel on dating & relationship topics once a week.
Post questions in the group 24/7 to receive actionable advice and sharing from amazing women who have been where you are.
Practice, practice, practice your new skills with a weekly experiment.
Connect with other imperfectly beautiful women like you – build your community, feel supported, and stay accountable for getting the love you want.
Love, Don’t Settle Course + 30 Days of Community: $149
Or, upgrade to add private coaching: $349
Get the Love, Don’t Settle Course + 30 Days of Community + Add 1 hour of one-on-one coaching with Rachel to laser-focus on the parts of the course that will offer the most impact for YOU: $349
You’re ready to really dig deep to get where you want to be? I see you!
The No-Settle Intensive:
When you think about having the relationship you want being possible, your whole body lights up…and simultaneously your gut feels tight and heavy. You feel excited…and scared. You know what you want, and you just can’t see the way to get there.
You know there’s “stuff” holding you back in relationship and you’ve tried to put your finger on it, but haven’t been able to sort it out on your own. It feels big, and you know you’re gonna need someone who really gets it, who’s been there even, to make headway with it.
We’ll spend six months looking at the parts of relationships that you are responsible for:
- Whether you believe it’s possible
- Knowing what you want
- Being a fully-resourced woman (in mind and body)
- How you show up in your relationship
- Creating agreements and teaching your partner how to be in relationship with you
- Your commitment
Yep, they seem simple (and they are), but along the way, we’ll unpack the subtle and not so subtle places that you sabotage your relationships by either not taking enough responsibility for yourself, or taking responsibility for things that aren’t yours to be responsible for!
You’ll go from understanding the concepts of responsibility internally to putting them into practice. You’ll learn communication tools so that you can practice being vulnerable, expressing what you want, making agreements in relationships, and how to set and hold boundaries. And, you’ll complete experiments to look at and shift those self-sabotaging habits.
Six months down the road, you’ll be bigger. You’ll take up more space in your life and the lives of others – and you’ll be comfortable doing it. A woman fully stepped into herself and owning her part in having what she wants.
You’ll feel ease and confidence, knowing that you can keep the life you already love AND have a relationship that lights you up.
6 months of weekly, private one-on-one coaching with Rachel, all tailored for YOU: $5,500 paid in full (or $1,000/month for 6 months)
Questions? Send me an email!
What Clients Are Saying
“You sparked a revolution in my thinking around what’s possible in relationships and though I’m doing it in my own way, taking small steps to be more open and honest about my feelings, needs and wants in relationships, I have taken those steps and it feels good to be on the way to more!
I now think of what I want as much as I think of others; I give myself more permission to think of myself first. The biggest takeaway I got was that I can communicate and ask for what i want and I don’t have to worry about that being ‘reasonable’ or ‘right’.”
Michelle Ayn Tessensohn, Singapore
“Working with Rachel, at first I felt a little vulnerable to be sharing about such a personal topic, but she was a good listener and made me feel comfortable – it was actually fun to work with her. I now feel more confident about communicating my feelings and needs to others, even when they aren’t being asked for.”
C. G., Mechanicsburg, Pennsylvania