Seriously, how is it even possible that you’re still single? Everyone you know thinks you’re a catch. Most days you think so too, but the days you don’t are enough to have you steer clear from relationships.
You play it off like you don’t want a relationship right now. In fact, you’ve said it so many times, you’ve got everyone convinced, even you.
You’ll be ready when work is a bit more steady. You’ll start dating again when you have more time, more money, more freedom, a smaller ass, a nicer house, a few more stamps in your passport. The list goes on and on.
But you know there’s more to the story. You know deep down, you don’t feel like you’re good enough…and this plays out miserably in every relationship you’ve ever had.
You wish you knew how to put yourself first in dating and relationships. You’re ready to stand your ground and not lose yourself. You’re excited to speak up with the words and the actions that feel true to you.
You’re ready to stop feeling so empty when you’re with someone else. You’re ready to do the deciding about who’s good enough for you and whether they are actually meeting your needs. You’re excited to know you’ll be ok no matter what happens.
You’re excited to find a man who supports you and brings out the best in you. You are ready to feel confident that you deserve it. You really want to let someone into your heart.
You’re hoping for love.
Do any of these sound familiar?
- You can’t figure out how you got so lost in your last relationships, or what to do differently next time.
- You feel like if you haven’t learned to love yourself by now, you doubt you’ll ever be able to.
- When you have met a man you think you’re interested in, you don’t like how fast you see old behaviors creep in that don’t feel like you.
- You’re afraid that you’re just meant to be alone.
Life is short; it’s time to bring more love into yours. I can help.
Hi, I’m Rachel. I’m a relationship-readiness coach for independent women who feel like finding companionship and intimacy is impossible without giving up lives they love. I teach my clients to unapologetically be themselves so they can get rid of old patterns and find the right amount of space in their lives to share with a guy who really gets them.
I’ve been down the path myself. After my divorce, I realized I had a debilitating fear of intimacy. My relationships all had one thing in common: I was so worried about being hurt or rejected if I was truly vulnerable, that I created a whole bunch of reasons why the relationship wasn’t right for me.
As soon as I saw what I was doing, I set out to change. I dismantled my stories and excuses. I created big experiments for myself so I could become who I wanted to become in relationships. Ultimately, I got clear that it was never about finding the right guy. It was about aligning my actions and beliefs so I could fully myself in any relationship.
I developed a sense of loyalty to myself that I’d never had before.
Oh, and the real kicker? Wouldn’t you know that partner options literally started to fall from the sky?!
I have a gift. (Ok, that’s a lie. I have many.) I can see patterns that others can’t see. I can hear the tone of your voice that tells me just how bad that thing you want to rush past hurts. I keep bringing you back to yourself, wherever you are, so you can build the relationship with yourself and with others that you really want. I make the really challenging work of personal development fun, practical and accessible.
Easy and straightforward steps equal steady progress.
As a result of private coaching with me, you will feel confident in who you are and know that you are deserving of the love you want:
- You will explore you. You’ll pull together all the pieces of who you are, what you want out of life, and the way you want to feel in a relationship so there will never be any doubt again whether you are pursuing relationships that nourish that or distract from it.
- I’ll show you that you can only be in charge of you – and how to put yourself front and center in your life and relationship. You’ll know concretely which parts of a relationship are your responsibility so you can pay attention to where you actually can make a difference.
- You’ll learn communication tools so that you can practice expressing what you feel and you want, making agreements in relationships, and how to set and hold boundaries so you can begin to let down your walls.
- You’ll shift your self-sabotaging habits through weekly experiments. You’ll gain practice and a better understanding of yourself and how to trust and do what is right for you.
She has seen things in me that I refused to see in myself but have been holding me back in ways that are not serving me. She delivers this with loving honesty, in a way that makes me say “Goddammit, she’s right. OUCH. OK, let’s take a baby step…” and then she’s there to nudge me on when I tiptoe a little bit backwards.” – Stephanie Hayes, Squamish, BC, Canada
You deserve love, you don’t have to settle, and you sure as hell don’t have to wait.
This private coaching package includes:
The Love Inventory
You’ll get to spill your guts and your mind on everything you’ve ever wanted (and not wanted) in a relationship. You’ll also get to be brutally honest about where it all went wrong. You’ll note patterns and habits so we’ll know where to pay special attention as you move forward. This will serve as a guide for reminding you of what you really want when you need a reality check.
Priority Number One Sessions
In 9 weekly 60-minute coaching sessions, we’ll dig in to the beliefs and behaviors that have kept you from being your own top priority in relationship, from having the love you deserve – and you’ll decide if they’re still serving you. Along the way, we’ll incorporate the real life issues that mimic how you show up in relationship, so you can learn a new set of tools for getting what you want and need in a different way.
Each week, you’ll receive one customized experiment to practice replacing old habits with a new one that will serve you better. You’ll try it out in your life over 7 days. We’ll check in each week to see what you’ve learned, as well as look at how you want to incorporate it into your life or not.
Your Biggest Fan, On-Call
This package comes with unlimited text and email support, so you’ve got Rachel by your side to integrate the sessions with what happens out in the world.
You can have the relationship you want.
You can finally move towards the relationship that you truly want. I can help you to develop the confidence, sense of self, and skills to keep yourself front and center as you move forward with a man that’s got partner potential.
Investment: $500/month for 3 months – or $1350 paid in full.
Ready to move towards finding the relationship you want? Let’s do it! Here’s how to get started.
Step 1: Schedule a complimentary, no-obligation consult. You can do that right here.
Step 2: At the scheduled time of your consult, we’ll consult! We’ll use the opportunity to make sure we’re the perfect fit before you commit.
Step 3: Then we’ll get started! If you decide to work with me, I’ll tell you the exact steps for getting started. If you decide not to work with me or if we aren’t a perfect fit, I’m happy to share other resources to help you get what you need.
Have questions? Email me.
What Clients Are Saying
“If you really want to be intentional about your next relationship, you’re going to get change out of working with Rachel. The feedback. The coaching. The honesty and hard questions. As a result of working with Rachel, I’m more self-aware and engaging in what I want from a relationship.
Jen Hope, Seattle, Washington
“You sparked a revolution in my thinking around what’s possible in relationships and though I’m doing it in my own way, taking small steps to be more open and honest about my feelings, needs and wants in relationships, I have taken those steps and it feels good to be on the way to more!
I now think of what I want as much as I think of others; I give myself more permission to think of myself first. The biggest takeaway I got was that I can communicate and ask for what i want and I don’t have to worry about that being ‘reasonable’ or ‘right’.”
Michelle Ayn Tessensohn, Singapore
“Working with Rachel, at first I felt a little vulnerable to be sharing about such a personal topic, but she was a good listener and made me feel comfortable – it was actually fun to work with her. I now feel more confident about communicating my feelings and needs to others, even when they aren’t being asked for.”
C. G., Mechanicsburg, Pennsylvania