You’ve met someone! And you’re kind of freaking out in a good way, and you’re kind of freaking out in a bad way. Eeee! Wait, no, don’t get ahead of yourself! But, eeee!
It’s been a while. You knew after the last guy it was time to step away and take a good, hard look at yourself. When that relationship ended, there were parts of yourself that you didn’t recognize anymore, and you needed to get back to you.
So you did. You spent time with your girlfriends, you got back into working out, you read books. You did the things that make YOU happy.
And, you didn’t expect to meet this guy, but you like him, and it’s feeling really different.
You’re ready to have companionship and intimacy in your life again. You want someone to cuddle with, have fun with, and who you can trust with the softest parts of yourself. You’re hoping for love.
You’re ready to take the lessons you’ve learned in previous relationships and do it differently this time. You’re excited to be emotionally available for a relationship where you stay true to yourself. You’re ready to let down your walls and share part of your life with a man who understands that there’s more to it than just him.
Do any of these sound familiar?
- You want to keep an open heart, but your fear of getting hurt again has you acting cautious and guarded.
- You feel more out of control than you’d like to admit from the swing of being super excited about where it’s going one moment to how disappointed you feel when he doesn’t text you the next.
- You know how you want a man to treat you, and you get frustrated and feel stuck when he doesn’t quite match your expectations – it makes you wonder if you should jump ship sooner rather than later.
- You can’t stand how easy it is to get carried away with all of it, and you’re worried about losing yourself again!
You want a different kind of relationship? You’ve gotta follow a different set of rules.
I’m Rachel, a relationship-readiness coach for independent women who feel like finding companionship and intimacy is impossible without giving up lives they love.
I’ll help you ditch the patterns that have had you lose yourself in past relationships. You’ll learn to own who you are and what you want so you can find the right amount of space in your life to share with a guy who really gets you.
I’ve been down the path myself. After my divorce, I realized I had a debilitating fear of intimacy. My relationships all had one thing in common: I was so worried about being hurt or rejected if I was truly vulnerable, that I created a whole bunch of reasons why the relationship wasn’t right for me.
As soon as I saw what I was doing, I set out to change. I dismantled my stories and excuses. I created big experiments for myself so I could become who I wanted to become in relationships.
Ultimately, I got clear that it was never about finding the right guy. It was about aligning my actions and beliefs so I could fully myself in any relationship.
I developed a sense of loyalty to myself that I’d never had before.
Oh, and the real kicker? Wouldn’t you know that partner options literally started to fall from the sky?!
I have a gift. (Ok, that’s a lie. I have many.) I can see patterns that others can’t see. I can hear the tone of your voice that tells me just how bad that thing you want to rush past hurts. I keep bringing you back to yourself, wherever you are, so you can build the relationships you really want. I make the really challenging work of personal development fun, practical and accessible.
Step into your new relationship with clear eyes, a solid sense of self, and an open heart.
As a result of this private coaching program, you will:
- Learn how to make yourself priority number one, so you don’t get lost in relationship ever again.
- Clearly spot red flags and be able to communicate about them head-on.
- Be able to stay focused on what is and not get carried away.
- Learn to manage your expectations and communicate with your partner for fewer disappointments.
- Be able to let down your walls at a pace and depth that feels good to you – and have the words to do that.
If you really want to be intentional about your next relationship, you’re going to get change out of working with Rachel. The feedback. The coaching. The honesty and hard questions. As a result of working with Rachel, I’m more self-aware and engaging in what I want from a relationship.” – Jen Hope, Seattle, WA
This package includes:
The Love Lists
You’ll get to spill your guts and your mind on everything you’ve ever wanted (and not wanted) in a relationship. You’ll also note patterns and habits so we’ll know where to pay special attention as you move forward. This will serve as a guide for reminding you of what you really want when you need a reality check.
Priority Number One Sessions
In 12 weekly 60-minute coaching sessions, we’ll dig in to the beliefs and behaviors that have kept you from being your own top priority in relationship, and you’ll decide if they’re still serving you. Along the way, we’ll incorporate the real life issues that are coming up in your developing relationship and you’ll get a new set of tools for getting what you want and need in a different way.
Each week, you’ll receive one customized experiment to practice replacing old habits with a new one that will serve you better. You’ll try it out in your new relationship over 7 days. We’ll check in each week to see what you’ve learned, as well as look at how you want to incorporate it into your new relationship or not.
You can have the relationship you want.
You can finally move forward to have the relationship that you truly want. I can help you to develop the confidence and skills to keep yourself front and center as you move forward with a man that’s got partner potential.
Investment: $2877 (payment plans available)
Ready to move towards finding the relationship you want? Let’s do it! Here’s how to get started.
Step 1: Schedule a complimentary, no-obligation consult. You can do that right here.
Step 2: At the scheduled time of your consult, we’ll consult! We’ll use the opportunity to make sure we’re the perfect fit before you commit.
Step 3: Then we’ll get started! If you decide to work with me, I’ll tell you the exact steps for getting started. If you decide not to work with me or if we aren’t a perfect fit, I’m happy to share other resources to help you get what you need.
Have questions? Email me.
What Clients Are Saying
“When I first met Rachel, I was at a point in my life where I really thought I was ready for a relationship for the first time since my divorce two years ago. The only thing was, I was still entertaining fun flings that were going nowhere.
I love Rachel’s style; she coaches intuitively with a no-nonsense directness minus the judgement. That all made me feel like I could really trust and confide in her. She gave me great homework assignments and challenged me to claim what I want and feel good about it. Working with Rachel, I was able to clear my energy of my dead-end dating habits and enter into the healthy relationship that I have always longed for.
I would highly recommend Rachel to anyone looking to begin a healthy relationship or make the relationship they’re already in a stronger one.”
Peggy Bennett, Kirkland, WA
“She has seen things in me that I refused to see in myself but have been holding me back in ways that are not serving me. She delivers this with loving honesty, in a way that makes me say “Goddammit, she’s right. OUCH. OK, let’s take a baby step…” and then she’s there to nudge me on when I tiptoe a little bit backwards.”
Stephanie Hayes, Squamish, BC, Canada
“You sparked a revolution in my thinking around what’s possible in relationships and though I’m doing it in my own way, taking small steps to be more open and honest about my feelings, needs and wants in relationships, I have taken those steps and it feels good to be on the way to more!
I now think of what I want as much as I think of others; I give myself more permission to think of myself first. The biggest takeaway I got was that I can communicate and ask for what i want and I don’t have to worry about that being ‘reasonable’ or ‘right’.”
Michelle Ayn Tessensohn, Singapore
“Working with Rachel, at first I felt a little vulnerable to be sharing about such a personal topic, but she was a good listener and made me feel comfortable – it was actually fun to work with her. I now feel more confident about communicating my feelings and needs to others, even when they aren’t being asked for.”
C. G., Mechanicsburg, Pennsylvania