Avoiding relationship so you don’t have to settle? I’ll show you how not to!
Seriously, how is it even possible that you’re still single?
You know you’re amazing, you’ve got your shit together, and the idea of a relationship sounds appealing, but finding a good one feels so elusive that it’s hard to admit it.
That, and maybe the fact that you’re so adamant about not settling that you won’t give any man a chance.
You think you want a relationship, but you remember relationships being more work than they are worth. In your past relationships, you gave more than you took, and you lost a part of yourself along the way. Let’s face it: you settled. You like who you are now, and it’s gonna take quite a man for you to be willing to give any of that up – and if you’re being honest, you don’t want to give up anything at all.
You might be afraid to admit it, but you want something deeper, with someone who is really going to commit, but he seems so damn hard to find.
You’d rather spend time doing things you love than waste your time with men who only want to hook up or that you simply can’t relate to.
Do any of these sound familiar?
- You feel like you’d be open to a relationship if you met someone, but you’re not putting in any effort to make it happen.
- You feel vulnerable and uncertain when you think about wanting a relationship, so you just focus your attention on other parts of your life.
- You are afraid that the man you want doesn’t exist.
- When you do find a man you think you’re interested in, you don’t like how fast you see old behaviors creep in that don’t feel like you.
But deep down, you know you want it.
You’re ready to have companionship and intimacy in your life again. You want someone to cuddle with, have fun with, and who you can trust with the most vulnerable parts of yourself. You’re hoping for love.
You’re ready to take the lessons you learned in your last relationship and know that you won’t make the same mistakes again. You’re excited to be emotionally available for a relationship where you stay true to yourself. You’re ready to let down your walls and share part of your life with a man who understands that there’s more to it than just him.
Well then, it’s time to ditch the patterns that screw it all up. I can help.
Hi, I’m Rachel. I’m a relationship-readiness coach for independent women who feel like finding companionship and intimacy is impossible without giving up lives they love. I teach my clients to unapologetically be themselves so they can get rid of old patterns and find the right amount of space in their lives to share with a guy who really gets them.
I’ve been down the path myself. After my divorce, I realized I had a debilitating fear of intimacy. My relationships all had one thing in common: I was so worried about being hurt or rejected if I was truly vulnerable, that I created a whole bunch of reasons why the relationship wasn’t right for me.
As soon as I saw what I was doing, I set out to change. I dismantled my stories and excuses. I created big experiments for myself so I could become who I wanted to become in relationships. My biggest experiment to date is when I moved in with a man – who wasn’t my boyfriend – for a year to see if I could have a live-in partner in the same home as my child.
Ultimately, I got clear that it was never about finding the right guy. It was about aligning my actions and beliefs so I could fully myself in any relationship.
I developed a sense of loyalty to myself that I’d never had before.
Oh, and the real kicker? Wouldn’t you know that partner options literally started to fall from the sky?!
I have a gift. (Ok, that’s a lie. I have many.) I can see patterns that others can’t see. I can hear the tone of your voice that tells me just how bad that thing you want to rush past hurts. I keep bringing you back to yourself, wherever you are, so you can build the relationships you really want. I make the really challenging work of personal development fun, practical and accessible.
Easy and straightforward steps equal steady progress.
As a result of private coaching with me, you will feel confident that you can keep the life you already love AND have the relationship you want:
- I’ll show you that you can only be in charge of you – you’ll know concretely which parts of a relationship are your responsibility and which parts belong to your partner, so you can focus on the places you actually can make a difference.
- You’ll learn communication tools so that you can practice being vulnerable, expressing what you want, making agreements in relationships, and how to set and hold boundaries.
- You’ll complete weekly experiments designed to shift your self-sabotaging habits. You’ll gain practice and a better understanding of yourself and how to trust what is right for you.
She has seen things in me that I refused to see in myself but have been holding me back in ways that are not serving me. She delivers this with loving honesty, in a way that makes me say “Goddammit, she’s right. OUCH. OK, let’s take a baby step…” and then she’s there to nudge me on when I tiptoe a little bit backwards.” – Stephanie Hayes, Squamish, BC, Canada
You deserve love, you don’t have to settle, and you sure as hell don’t have to wait.
You + Me = 30-60 minutes, once a week, six months.
Weekly experiments and exercises designed to fit into your life easily.
Unlimited text access.
Big change that comes from unpacking the subtle and not-so-subtle places that you sabotage your relationships by either not taking enough responsibility for yourself, or taking responsibility for things that aren’t yours to be responsible for!
Six months from now:
You’ll be bigger.
You’ll take up more space in your life and the lives of others – and you’ll be comfortable doing it.
You’ll be fully empowered and owning your part in having what you want.
You’ll feel ease and confidence, knowing that you can keep the life you already love AND have a relationship that lights you up.
6 months of weekly, private one-on-one coaching with Rachel, all tailored for YOU: $5,500 paid in full (or $1,000/month for 6 months).
What Clients Are Saying
“You sparked a revolution in my thinking around what’s possible in relationships and though I’m doing it in my own way, taking small steps to be more open and honest about my feelings, needs and wants in relationships, I have taken those steps and it feels good to be on the way to more!
I now think of what I want as much as I think of others; I give myself more permission to think of myself first. The biggest takeaway I got was that I can communicate and ask for what i want and I don’t have to worry about that being ‘reasonable’ or ‘right’.”
Michelle Ayn Tessensohn, Singapore
“Working with Rachel, at first I felt a little vulnerable to be sharing about such a personal topic, but she was a good listener and made me feel comfortable – it was actually fun to work with her. I now feel more confident about communicating my feelings and needs to others, even when they aren’t being asked for.”
C. G., Mechanicsburg, Pennsylvania